Everyone likes a top ten list right. Here’s the top ten ones guys make when trying to date a stripper:

10: Waiting for the stripper to come talk to you. When a stripper approaches you, she gets herself in ’stripper’ mode instead of ‘girl’ mode. Also, by approaching a stripper yourself, it shows confidence.

9: Touching a stripper prematurely. Douchebags and skeezy old guys touch these girls all day. Keep your hands to yourself at first so you don’t get categorized with those guys.

8: Going on a Friday or Saturday night. That’s when the strip club is the most busy and they have the least time for you.

7: Asking ‘what’s your real name’ immediately. It’s good to not refer to them by their stripper name, but you don’t want to force the issue. It’s not a big deal at first.

6. Letting them direct the conversation. If they start talking toy ou, they’ll immediately get into stripper mode and associate you as just another customer.

5. Asking common questions like ‘where are you from?’ Try to take the conversation on a different level. Be funny and creative.

4. Giving up on the hottest strippers. The type of strippers that are impossible to date have nothing to do with looks. You want to avoid incompetent girls or druggies, but looks generally has nothing to do with this.

3. Waiting a few days to contact a stripper after getting a phone number. If you get a number, contact her the next day. You might as well find out if she is into you and is competent enough to be able to see you. Why waste time?

2. Going with a bunch of guys. It’s really tough to pick up a stripper if you’re with a lot of your friends. It puts you more into ‘customer’ status and her into ’stripper’ mode and it also just creates a bunch of logistical issues. Avoid the frat party/bachelor party look.

1. Buying dances. The fastest way to be a ‘customer’ and not a ‘lover’ is to buy dances

If there is a mistake that all people make, it’s panicking. In investing, some bad news may cause people to sell an investment too early, when the investment has great long-term potential. That’s why they often refer to fear and greed as being enemies for stock investors.

In the same way, people can panic and make mistakes during their life. Women, in general, live in a constant state of panic if they’re single. This is why you see women that are never truly single…they just always jump from boyfriend to boyfriend. The thought of being truly single is just too shocking and horrifying to ever deal with it.

Believe it or not, men can be the same way. If a guy thinks that he cannot find a better girl, he may beg his ex-girlfriend to marry him or do something else stupid. Especially in this economic environment, when everyone is a bit uneasy, men are prone to making commitment errors due to fear of the unknown.

Men, have a little gamble in you.  If things don’t go your way, don’t panic. You still have your health (hopefully) and more importantly, you still have yourself. Your balls are still there….keep them there! Don’t spazz out because you are a little lonely or bored. You’re going to have downswings in life just as you will have upswings. Just don’t let a downswing panic you into making permanent decisions that will keep your life at a perpetual low.

It’s a great world out there and there’s always opportunities presenting themselves. You don’t need to pursue every one of them. However, don’t shut yourself off completely to life and panic into making bad decisions.

One of the upsides of this great economic disaster is that it is going to get easier and cheaper than ever to get laid? My friends, the dating world relies on the principles of economics, just like everything else. As much as success with women relies on a variety of skills, largely how you talk and confidence in yourself, economics drives the dating market.

I’m not just talking about women wanting men with money. Rather, what women expect out of a relationship. A lot of women in America expect men to marry them and take care of them for the rest of their life. They don’t want to work, want to feel like they don’t need to sleep with their husband unless he is meeting their every need, and all of this will fall into their lap.

This sort of fantasy land is about to end. Marriage rates have been slowing for years, as people get married later. As Obama makes our country more socialist and our economy continues its downward spiral, our dating world will more mimic Europe’s (hey, our economy is going to).  In Europe, men treat women way worse than we do in America. European men are even less willing to marry European women, and European women, for the most part, are easier than American women.

As men’s income and wealth go down, their willingness to spend it all on some spoiled woman goes down. As this happens, women become more desperate. Just look at strippers. Men aren’t willing to pay $100 for 20 minutes of lap dances anymore. In Europe, if you shell out $100 to a woman in this sense, you’re getting to third base. The same will happen in America in regards to the sex industry.

As hookers become cheaper, men have another outlet to get some without having to have a steady girlfriend. So men’s options get cheaper in this regard, and regular women are more desperate than ever to snag a man due to the economic situation. Needless to say, it’s a buyers market for men in regards to getting a girlfriend.

The ironic part of the Obama presidency is that his support came mainly from women. The one thing most women want more than anything is to get married. By allowing this economic mess to continue, and by transforming our economy into mimicing European economies, men will become even less willing to get married, since it will become so much cheaper and easier to get laid.

Occasional media attention has been paid to “negging” girls. Mystery, the famed pick-up artist that got his own VH1 show, popularized this method of attracting women.

Negging is just basically teasing the girl. What you are tryign to display when negging girl is both confidence and a sense of humor. The aim isn’t so much to ‘make you look good’ as it is to create a comfortable atmosphere and to get her attention.

Politically correct folk will sometimes bash negging, mainly because they have no idea what it is. Here’s their lame arguments:

1. It doesn’t work………yeah, believe me, it does.

2. It’s anti-women since you are trying to belittle them……very melodramatic. It’s gentle teasing. Negging works best on women with huge egos anyways; the type of girls guys fawn after. These girls are sick of being how told how pretty and great they are. They want someone to tease them a bit and pull their hair in the sack.

3. It’s difficult/impossible to do well……not really, it’s all a matter of how you deliver. You can’t come across as either insecure or mean. You need to come across as both light-hearted and confident.

How Do You Neg?

Negging isn’t insulting a girl….it’s light teasing. The distinction is huge. Insulting a girl will result in a slap or odd look, whereas light teasing can land you in sexy time. Let’s take an example of meeting a girl with dyed blonde hair…but not necessarily totally clear at first that it’s dyed.

Mean insult: Hi. I can’t believe you dyed your hair. You look terrible. So ugly.

Negging: Hi. Did you dye your hair or is that natural?

Girl: It’s dyed.

You: I see. So you have fake hair color. When you wake up in the morning and look yourself in the mirror, do you always think ‘phony?’

Do you pay or do you go dutch? Many guys aren’t sure what the best thing to do is. I’m going to assume in this article that you’re not so cheap that the money itself is a consideration and just getting laid is.

In general, yes, you should pay. If you don’t, girls will think you are cheap or a dick. So if you are out on a dinner date or something similar to that with a girl, you should offer to pay.

However, don’t put yourself in a situation where you have to pay A LOT for the girl. For example, don’t take a girl out for an elegent 5 course dinner before you have even slept with her. Not only are you shelling out a lot of dough, she will actually respect you less. In her mind, she’s thinking ‘why is he trying to hard to get me…he must not be good enough for me.’ And yes, in this situation, you still need to pay. You still screwed yourself over by treating her too well before she sleeps with you, but insisting on going dutch at that point pretty much torpedoes whatever chances you have left with the girl.

So, when dating girls, remember two things:

1. Don’t spend too much money on them before they sleep with you. Otherwise they wont’ respect you.

2. You still need to pay for any date you go on with them though. So don’t go on any expensive dates before you stick it in her.

Afraid your girlfriend may dump you? I don’t mean that you’re afraid if you don’t commit to/marry her, she may leave you. In that case, the power is ultimately in your court. I’m referring to getting truly dumped; the girl just doesn’t want to date you anymore. She may still want to be ‘just friends.’

Think it’s you don’t spend enough attention on her? Probably not that. Is it because you cheated on her one too many times? Probably not that either, though it’s not wise to do that if you want a healthy long-term relationship.

The number one reason guys get dumped by their girlfriends is because they start acting like sissies. At the beginning, the girl was attracted to the guy because she found him to be confident and reassuring. She was attracted to him. However, over time, the guy started to seem ‘weaker’ to her. Perhaps he got too needy or perhaps he got jealous over the smallest reason. Whatever the case was, the guy seemed less like the guy she was attracted to originally and more like a loser.

When you’re dating a girl, remember that you’re always “the man” in the relationship. After the two of you open up, you may feel comfortable constantly talking about your problems or perhaps even crying in front of her. Don’t do this. Girls hate crybabies. It’s ok if women cry; it’s not ok if you cry. Yes, it’s a double standard, but get over it. If you cry in front of your girlfriend, it better be because a tragedy just occured in your life. It better not be because you feel overwhelmed at work and you are jealous of how much time she spends with some guy friend at work.

The politically correct media tries to act like a lack of communication is the main reason people break up. They’re wrong. If anything, it may be because of too much communication. If you’re feeling sorry for yourself, hold it in. Don’t whine about it to your girlfriend or do it minimally. Always be her protector, her rock. If you start acting like a wuss, your girlfriend will dump you or start cheating on you.

Dressing well will definitely help you when it comes to attracting the ladies. Not only does it give you extra confidence and that extra spring in your step, you just flat out look better and ‘richer’ to them (here’s a complete guide to dressing well)

One way to present yourself as ‘wealthy’ is to have a nice watch. Am I saying to go out and buy a $20k rolex if you only make $70k a year? Heck, no. In fact, there’s a big difference between a ‘nice’ watch and an ‘expensive’ watch.

Women are very brand oriented. You may have some ten year-old Porsche that barely works, but you’re still cool because you drive a Porsche even if that car is now worth less than a Honda Accord. Do you like Lacoste shirts? Well, you can buy knockoffs for $20 and still get the same credibility from the ladies.

The same works with watches…in a different way. See, no one is going to look at the watch and see what brand is on there in little type. Girls are just impressed by how shiny and glowy it looks. It’s tough to fake gold, but there are tons of watches out there for $200-$300 that look like they cost $5k. Basically, they have a bunch of glass studs on them that look like diamonds and girls can’t tell the difference.

It’s fitting that diamonds are considered a girl’s best friend because, quite frankly, girls can’t distinguish diamonds from shiny glass that looks like a diamond.

If you are out there to buy a nice watch, don’t buy some $4k Cartier watch that looks nice but isn’t stunning. Buy some $300 studded out, shiny watch that looks like it costs $10k.

When most guys go to the strip club, they think the strippers there are ‘untouchable,’ like some sort of special type of woman. They think the only way to get a stripper to be with them is to give them large sums of money. The truth is strippers are great to date. They’re hot, fairly easy, and generally not looking for much commitment.

The MOST important thing you have to do is separate yourself from the other guys. You can’t be your average chump that goes in there, wallet ready to get lap dances.

To begin with, you need to ‘neg’ the stripper, meaning basically flirt with her by teasing her. You MUST act like you think you are good enough for the stripper to want to date outside the strip club. Basically, you shouldn’t want to pay her to go out on a date with you. IF anything, she should pay you to go out on a date with her. You need to act like you can get girls like her all the time, so it’s a matter of if she’s good enough for you.

By ‘negging’ her, you send this message in a playful matter. For example, let’s say a stripper has some like schoolgirl outfit on. When you approach her (again, better to approach her than she approach you because it shows confidence), you should say something like “School girl outfit huh? That’s real original.”

Stripper: Haha, I know a lot of girls wear it, but I think it’s cool.

You: Yeah, I mean, it’s ok in all in theory, it’s just that most of the girls that wear it are kinda nuts. Last girl I talked to wearing a schoolgirl outfit was some 40 year-old that believed she had a 12 year-old girl’s spirit trapped in her. You’re not like nuts like that are you?

As you can see, you are starting a conversation with her that’s funny, but at the same time, making it seem like she is the one that needs to validate herself to you.

The WORST thing to do is to go to a stripper and talk about how pretty she is, how you could never be able to date a girl like her, how you’ll give her money just to go shopping with you, etc. Strippers HATE that. They don’t respect those sorts of guys. They see it all the time and it grosses them out.

Strippers in general love a little good-natured abuse. Not like crazy ex-boyfriend domestic violence abuse (though sadly that does happen a lot), more along the lines of negging and having her hair-pulled/ass slapped during sex type abuse.

Anyways, I digress. After talking to the stripper, negging her and stuff, you’ll at some point need to get the stripper’s number. This in of itself is not that hard. The issue though is that strippers are extremely flaky. Getting them to answer the phone, no less meet you somewhere later is incredibly difficult feat to accomplish. It is a generally more practical route to go somewhere after she gets off work.

It helps a lot if you’re a semi-regular at the strip club. If she gets to know you, she’lll be more comfortable leaving with you. You’ll also have multiple opportunities to neg her and flirt with her.

Being a semi-regular does not need to be expensive. The key is to not pay for lap dances. Tip a girl on stage- sure. In fact, tip them beter than average, like a $5-$10 instead of a few singles. But if you start getting lap dances from her, not only are you paying way too much for pretty pathetic entertainment, she’ll start viewing you as a customer more than as a potential date.

Now, buying a drink for the stripper is perfectly good and is a good way to get some flirting time in. So drinks yes, lap dances no.

Dating strippers involves a lot of variance. Once you get good at it, you’ll realize that it’s more of a matter of how flaky they are than how good your game is. Just act confident, cocky, funny, have a good time, and don’t spend too much money.

Thought this article was useful:

While listening to Britney Spear’s “Womanizer,” I decided to do a Google search for the term. After a page full of hits related to her song, came up a few articles about males that sleep around, cassanovas if you will.

I found  this article in particular pretty amusing. They seem to imply that guys that get around are somehow insecure with themselves. Yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah, right.

Cuz you know, no guy with self-esteem wants to have dozens of girlfriends, he wants to be tied down to the same naggy woman every day that won’t sleep with him.