When most guys go to the strip club, they think the strippers there are ‘untouchable,’ like some sort of special type of woman. They think the only way to get a stripper to be with them is to give them large sums of money. The truth is strippers are great to date. They’re hot, fairly easy, and generally not looking for much commitment.

The MOST important thing you have to do is separate yourself from the other guys. You can’t be your average chump that goes in there, wallet ready to get lap dances.

To begin with, you need to ‘neg’ the stripper, meaning basically flirt with her by teasing her. You MUST act like you think you are good enough for the stripper to want to date outside the strip club. Basically, you shouldn’t want to pay her to go out on a date with you. IF anything, she should pay you to go out on a date with her. You need to act like you can get girls like her all the time, so it’s a matter of if she’s good enough for you.

By ‘negging’ her, you send this message in a playful matter. For example, let’s say a stripper has some like schoolgirl outfit on. When you approach her (again, better to approach her than she approach you because it shows confidence), you should say something like “School girl outfit huh? That’s real original.”

Stripper: Haha, I know a lot of girls wear it, but I think it’s cool.

You: Yeah, I mean, it’s ok in all in theory, it’s just that most of the girls that wear it are kinda nuts. Last girl I talked to wearing a schoolgirl outfit was some 40 year-old that believed she had a 12 year-old girl’s spirit trapped in her. You’re not like nuts like that are you?

As you can see, you are starting a conversation with her that’s funny, but at the same time, making it seem like she is the one that needs to validate herself to you.

The WORST thing to do is to go to a stripper and talk about how pretty she is, how you could never be able to date a girl like her, how you’ll give her money just to go shopping with you, etc. Strippers HATE that. They don’t respect those sorts of guys. They see it all the time and it grosses them out.

Strippers in general love a little good-natured abuse. Not like crazy ex-boyfriend domestic violence abuse (though sadly that does happen a lot), more along the lines of negging and having her hair-pulled/ass slapped during sex type abuse.

Anyways, I digress. After talking to the stripper, negging her and stuff, you’ll at some point need to get the stripper’s number. This in of itself is not that hard. The issue though is that strippers are extremely flaky. Getting them to answer the phone, no less meet you somewhere later is incredibly difficult feat to accomplish. It is a generally more practical route to go somewhere after she gets off work.

It helps a lot if you’re a semi-regular at the strip club. If she gets to know you, she’lll be more comfortable leaving with you. You’ll also have multiple opportunities to neg her and flirt with her.

Being a semi-regular does not need to be expensive. The key is to not pay for lap dances. Tip a girl on stage- sure. In fact, tip them beter than average, like a $5-$10 instead of a few singles. But if you start getting lap dances from her, not only are you paying way too much for pretty pathetic entertainment, she’ll start viewing you as a customer more than as a potential date.

Now, buying a drink for the stripper is perfectly good and is a good way to get some flirting time in. So drinks yes, lap dances no.

Dating strippers involves a lot of variance. Once you get good at it, you’ll realize that it’s more of a matter of how flaky they are than how good your game is. Just act confident, cocky, funny, have a good time, and don’t spend too much money.